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Forget People Pleasing
If you’ve spent your life overgiving, overfunctioning, or trying to earn love… if you feel unloved, unnoticed, or disconnected from the people you care about… if you’re longing for healthier relationships, authenticity, and a deeper connection with God… this podcast is for you. Forget People Pleasing is a podcast for Christian women who love God but feel emotionally exhausted, spiritually stuck, resentful, or unseen in their relationships. Hosted by Rhonda Morales, therapist and emotional skills coach, this show helps you heal the emotional wounds that feed people pleasing — especially those rooted in a dysfunctional or emotionally neglectful childhood. Our podcast will talk about our real-life struggles and strategies, teach emotional and relational skills, offer biblical insight to help you stop people pleasing and finally become the woman God created you to be – without guilt, without fear, and without losing yourself. Connect with Rhonda at rhondamorales.com
Episodes
34 episodes
33. People Pleasers: Buidling Self Trust and Intregity With God's Help
Our self trust erodes like death by a thousand paper cuts as we chronically abandon ourselves to chase the approval and inclusion of others. This episode offers a 4 part framework to help build self trust and integrity with God's help.
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32. Why Do I Have To Tell Them What To Do? The People Pleaser's Mental Load
Why do I have to TELL them?Can’t they SEE the overflowing trash, the dishes in the sink, the dog-hair tumbleweeds?Here’s the problem: you’re expecting them to notice what YOU notice.And that expectation may be creating more...
31. People Pleasing: Stop Chasing People
As PEOPLE PLEASERS we tend to chase people that don't express much interest in us. This episode covers why we chase people, what we could be looking for and what to do instead.https://www....
30. People Pleasing and the Stories FEAR Tells You
We can tell ourselves some pretty scary stories BUT, are they based on FEAR or is it a PATTERN?? This episode talks about -- not confusing a scary story with a pattern and how to discern the difference. Also discussed is the n...
29. Are You Taking On Other People's Emotions?
We can FEEL each other's emotions, but we don't need to take them on.This Episode teaches a 4 step framework on what to do when you're around intense emotions and how NOT to absorb them.Remember, the more grounded you become in wh...
28. Why People Pleasers Can Be Lousy Communicators - and How To Communicate Clearly
Say what you mean, mean what you say, and don't say it mean. That's how we practice being honest and how we develop meaningful relationships. When we are authentically seen and known, then we won't feel lonely and we can leave our f...
27. People Pleasing: The Fake Version of You
It's built in you to want to be known and understood. But, you can crave to be included so much that you present your fake self. The only way you feel seen, known, and understood is by connecting with others that learn who yo...
26. Why Boundaries Make People Pleasers Feel Guilty
New behaviors feel awkward and you may feel guilty, anxious, or fearful ... but could it be vulnerable instead? Just because our honest choices conjure up uncomfortable feelings, doesn't mean we have made a wrong choice.Learning to...
25. Jealousy, Comparison, and Resentment
This episode talks about how comparison leads to jealousy and resentment. It also talks about how to love who God created you to be and live in His plan for your life instead of envying someone else's life. https://w...
24. Why It's So Hard to Ask For Help
Do you struggle with asking for help. I'm getting better at it. I was embarrassed and afraid of people seeing my messy middle. I didn't want anyone to know I was struggling. All messaging from my childhood. No surprise t...
23. No Answer Is An Answer
Here's an emotional tool for your toolbox -- No Answer Is An Answer. There's at least 2 different ways to apply this tool: to outgoing invites that seem to get crickets and to incoming communication when you've asked it to stop.
22. Before You Cut Them Off
Do you tolerate negative behavior or cut them off? Actually, there's another option that might be the better one. We tend to avoid having hard conversations, but being honest creates the possibility of understanding, repairin...
21. The Bully From Your Past
We've all been hurt ... and some of us have an identified BULLY that caused us harm. There's a pseudo power in holding a grudge against that bully.This episode is how our unhealed hurt can freeze an unfair picture of that person in...
20. Not Everyone Has To Like You
When we NEED people to like us, let's pause and ask some questions to help us reflect on where this need is coming from.When we weren't included as a child, then being liked as an adult may feel much bigger than it really is. It...
19. Resentment Builds in the Silence
When we don't talk through what bothers us, resentment tends to build. Fear keeps us from having the hard conversations and the silence causes the relationship to decay. Don't let fear make your choices for you. Your relations...
18. Hurt People, Hurt People
We've all been hurt by people ... and because we are human and make mistakes, we too hurt others. Wounded people that haven't done the emotional and spiritual work of healing and growing are prone to hurting others without concern or know...
16. When Life Gets Interrupted
Life gets interrupted sometimes, doesn't it?! It doesn't always go as planned! My life got derailed by several home expensive repairs and an unplanned need for a new car! God held me together and gave me wisdom, directi...
15. The Dark Side Of Mother's Day
Mother's Day isn't always joyful for lots of reasons. Today's epidsode talks about the mother you needed but didn't get. We cover some ways to process those hard feelings of disappointment, grief, abandonment, and anger. ...
14. Our Need To Belong
It's human to want to belong. It's in our DNA as we are created in the image of our triune God, designed for communion with Him and with one another. People pleasing keeps us from being known not just to ourselves but unknown...
13. The Fear of Being Ruined
Fear says, "you will be ruined if you say no or set a boundary." But God tells us in Galatians 5:1, you have been set free to no longer be a slave. We think our consequence for not appeasing will be ruin, permanent, and pervasive. B...
12. I Married Him Because I Was A People Pleaser
Left to my own flawed human thinking and emotions plus the people pleasing tendency to not want to disappoint anyone ... well, I got married for the wrong reasons. Yes, I was "young and dumb" and "didn't know what I didn't know." &n...
11. What Are You Going To Be When You Grow Up?
Isn't it crazy that at the young age of high school graduation you have a major question to answer, "what are you going to be when you grow up?" How well do we really know ourselves at that age. And without God navigating, we can ma...